At Long Last!

This is the first *big* step in pursuing my true passion, my dream. This website has been a work-in-progress for several months, during which time I’ve gone from terrified, to frustrated, to wondering what in the world I was doing, to knowing this is something bigger than me and something that I absolutely have to do.

Timing Is Everything

But I’ve always believed that timing is everything, and I knew that when the time was right it would all come together. Is it perfect? Is it completely finished? Of course not. But then again, neither am I. And it’s taken me a very long time to be okay with not being perfect, and not thinking that I had to be perfect.

Then again, is life ever perfect? No. It’s always changing and evolving. Three years ago I was 47 years old, I was married and I was employed as a paralegal in family law. Now, I’m 50 and divorced, but still a paralegal. But even that is changing as I transition into my true life purpose.

I’ve learned things about myself in the past year that have surprised me. Things I’d long forgotten, and some I never knew. Things I liked and things I didn’t like. It’s been truly transformational.

Who Am I?

You see, when you’ve been a wife and/or mother most of your adult life, and suddenly you’re not (well, you’re always a parent, but it’s different after your children are grown), you have to take a long hard look at who you are. And what you want. And what your place in the world is now. And what you want to do with the rest of your life.

Who you want to be the rest of your life.

I am now taking the part of my job that I love the most – helping people get through the emotional part of the divorce process – to the next level. It’s time for me to help other women who are where I was not so long ago find their place, find their identity, find their passion and purpose, and help them redefine and recreate their lives.

Because it really is a time of reinvention. It can be scary. It can be paralyzing. It can keep you up at night. It can bring up doubts and fears you never even knew you had.

It is truly life-changing.

But when you come out on the other side of it, it can be amazing. It can be fun. It can be playful. It can be full of passion and joy. It can be the life of your dreams. It can be better than anything you ever imagined. It can be sensational.

Is my life exactly how and where I want it to be? Definitely not. But I’ve come a very long way from where I was a year ago and I’m headed in an exciting direction. I’ve had some amazing friends and mentors helping me along the way. Women like Sarah Robinson, Marie Forleo, Elizabeth Potts Weinstein, Alexis Martin Neely, and Allison Nazarian. And too many others to name.

Because it can’t be done alone.

It can take a month, a year, or 10 years to rebuild your life. It’s a process, a journey, and there is no timetable. But it can be done. It has to be done. It’s up to you which path you travel.

There is life after divorce.

And it can be whatever you want it to be.

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  • Lori F

    Lori, I am so happy for you. Congratulations on the launch of your site. Your personal story is compelling and should resonate with lots of women. Looking forward to reading more…

    Lori F

    • Lori

      Thank you, Lori! You have been such a wonderful friend and your support means the world to me.

      I’ll keep writing :)


      • Lori F

        You betcha. I’m lucky to have met you and am glad we are friends. Besides, 2 people with the proper spelling of the first name? It’s gotta be good, right?

  • Sarah Robinson

    So incredibly proud of you Lori. You are stepping into EXACTLY what you are meant to do in this world and I can’t wait to see all the goodness you are about to unleash on the world. YAY!


    • Lori

      Thank you, Sarah! I couldn’t have done any of it without you. You have been such an amazing mentor and I’m honored to call you a friend. I’m definitely following in some pretty awesome footsteps :)


  • Karen Armstrong

    Beautiful Lori! Simple, clean, fresh and *genuine*…

    Looking forward to reading more about your journey and seeing the great things you’re going to offer women who are ready to re-invent themselves!

    • Lori

      Thank you so much, Karen! I really appreciate your support and kind words.

  • Anne


    congratulations on the new website! It looks great. What a great idea too for coaching. I definitely could have used your help when I was 28, newly divorced and had no idea how to process such a major change in my life.

    xo Anne

    • Lori

      Thank you, Anne! Yes, it is such a difficult time, regardless of the circumstances, how old you are, any of that. It’s such a major change and takes time to process and heal. I’ve become so frustrated as a paralegal ending the relationship at the end of the divorce, when there is so much more work to be done.

      Thank you again!


  • Allison Nazarian

    I am so proud of you and so excited for you. First step of many, I am certain.
    I will be closely watching you and your journey…can’t wait to see how it all unfolds!
    xo ~ Alli

    • Lori

      Thank you, Alli! You’re right – it’s a journey, and I’m very fortunate to have people like you lighting the way :)


  • Shelly

    Hey Lori!

    Yeah for getting your site up! Great post! I’m so glad you found your way to doing what you want… along with all the other things you learned! WOO HOO :)


    • Lori

      Oh Shelly, thank you love! My father (who passed away in 1993) always said that the day he didn’t learn something would be they day could put him in his grave.

      Everything we experience in life makes us who we are at any given moment, and if we can learn from everything we experience, both the good and the bad, then we will always grow and evolve.


  • Christine Gallagher

    YES! So proud of you Lori and the site looks GREAT!! :) Much love xo

  • lorilatimer

    Thank you, Christine! I had a lot of help… but I couldn't have done any of it without what you taught me :) xoxo